Let me ask you this: are you living life on the field, or are you warming up in the bleachers? As you can see, both of these are complete opposites of each other, with one of them being more fulfilling than the other- and you don’t have to guess which one it is.
If you are constantly short-ending yourself by staying outside of the spotlight, then it can be very difficult to find meaning and happiness in life. You might become frustrated, disappointed, even unmotivated to keep going if you continue this trend, and so it is a matter of stepping up to bat and start playing! As a certified professional life coach, I am here to guide you with a few, simple steps to help you get out there and begin playing the game that we call “Life.”
Reevaluate your life’s purpose.
Of course, you can not start turning your life around if you do not know what’s bothering you in the first place. Ask yourself why you are holding back from taking that new job opportunity (perhaps it’s too far from home, too many hours, etc.) or how come you do not want to travel (fear of flying or that it’s a new, foreign environment you aren’t accustomed to). Regardless of what it is and the reasons why you are shirking away from doing them, it is necessary to figure out first these factors, which will help you reevaluate your goals and dreams in life.
Don’t be afraid to try new things.
Like many other people, you might believe that you are completely fine living your life the way it is, even though it is often boring. Call it “being settled,” but for me, it is being complacent, which can be decent in certain circumstances, but definitely not for the long term. One reason many of us are complacent is due to fear, whether of experiencing new moments or trying the new things. Yes, it will be daunting at first, but it is also important to know that it will enrich and benefit you in the end.
Commit to it.
Now that you are trying something new (e.g. hobby, food, travel), it is a matter of continuing to stick with it. Like field players in sports, they go onto the field during games…and they stay there. You are now the star, and it is up to you—and only you—to play and finish what you started—no excuses! This is not a matter of proving anything to others, but rather to yourself, as you learn to master hobbies like knitting or perhaps take yourself halfway across the world. There is so much potential in you, and it only requires a bit of commitment to make it a long-term, fulfilling experience.